Monday, April 29, 2013

my message for the haters and those who doubt me

"with her little funny eyes of hazel and her funny old blue hat she will go and set the world on fire no one ever thought she could do that....feel it, breathe it, believe it and you'll be walking on air"...


Saturday, April 27, 2013

scarlet walk journals

I was encouraged recently to publish my diary in which I typically write in either song lyric or poem form [it's something I started doing when I was 14] but the title Scarlet Walk Journals is significant to me because it is one of the most influential Tori Amos albums for me; as most know the story [pagers] Scarlet's Walk for me was the road trip to Las Vegas I made with my big brother and his band in which shortly after they were signed. That experience will forever be with me and it is also a marking point in my life and me growing as a person. The songs on that album also are important because of what is going on in my life right now and it seems so many people claim to "know" me but when it reality they don't just my name not my full story. For me writing expresses my true emotions I am just able to be more expressive and write how I truly feel about things.
 The set up of the blog I decided to do it in seasons [spring, summer, fall and winter] beginning with last spring and ending up until now so it is roughly about the last ten months and I think it gives people an idea what goes on with me. There are some people I have written about and I will publish those [it isn't anything bad] as well. Right now, I feel there are quite a few things I need to say/express. So hope everyone enjoys the blog.


much love,
Nat

http://www.harleyquinnmaybe.blogspot.com


Saturday, April 20, 2013

i know

So be it, I'm your crowbar
If thats what I am so far
Until you get out of this mess
And I will pretend
That I dont know of your sins
Until you are ready to confess
But all the time, all the time
I'll know, I'll know
And you can use my skin
To bury your secrets in
And I will settle you down
And at my own suggestion,
I will ask no questions
While I do my thing in the background
But all the time, all the time
i'll know, I'll know
Baby-I can't help you out, while she's still around
So for the time being, I'm being patient
And amidst this bitterness
If you'll consider this-even if it dont make sense
All the time-give it time
And when the crowd becomes your burden
And you've early closed your curtains,
I'll wait by the backstage door
While you try to find the lines to speak your mind
And pry it open, hoping for an encore
And if it gets too late, for me to wait
For you to find you love me, and tell me so
It's ok, dont need to say it








how to date a pin up model

I've seen this going around the past few days and the question was even asked of myself about what exactly are the ways for a guy to win me over. Well, I cannot speak for every pin up model out there but can speak for myself and what makes me happy or what catches my attention in a guy....but here are some things I do look for in a guy:

*be yourself. In all honesty, I would want to date someone who is comfortable enough to be himself around me and not pretend...someone who is comfortable in his own skin and just not afraid to say how he feels!

*sense of humour. I love guys with a wicked sense of humour and someone I can make inside jokes with

* be smart. doesn't have to be a rocket scientist but someone I can have a decent conversation with

*be okay with my crazy schedule. Occasionally, I will travel a lot especially when away for photo shoots but know I'm always going to be his no matter where I am.

*be secure, meaning that always know that I will be loyal to only him and no one else, because once I decide to be with someone 110% I am his and no one else

*be okay with the fact that spirituality is very important to me [yes, some guys have issues with this I've found]

*love video games. Yes, I am a gamer

overall just someone who is okay with being my best friend, romantic partner with a wicked sense of humour. I really don't believe in *types* because feel it limits ourselves to the kind of people we allow into our lives, but also know too I do have trust issues especially when it comes to dating, so people interpret that as me being shy but it's not just more comfortable the more will open up

Friday, April 19, 2013

Q & A

Q: Are you really going to pursue performing full time?
A: maybe :-)

Q: Which do you love more? Nursing or being a performer?
A: Honestly, I love both. I love working in nursing and I love helping people it is second nature to me to help others. I think the reason I am so drawn to a "normal" job is because I grew up having performer parents so no my childhood was anything but "normal". For the longest I actually liked being behind the scenes because for a while I worked as PR/marketing for professional bands so was around performers but at the same time not out there which was great. But in all honesty as one of my friends recently told me...performing this time is something for me and no one else. I am not fame thirsty could care less I have my own career, etc and content with that. What happens happens.

Q: You just changed your twitter handle...why?
A: because because because. No but I changed it because it was picked out by my ex boyfriend. It was a nickname he had for me timidunsure how that came about don't know 83 is his birth year. I wanted to do something different from him since he is not a part of my life any longer. So starting over fresh is a great way to put it.

Q: Do you have a personal facebook?
A: I do. However I only add people who I would talk to on a regular basis or otherwise hang out with/spend time with in person. So wish people would please understand this and also open to people following me via facebook. But if you manage to find my personal facebook you should work for the FBI haha. Which is one reason try  not to make so so private. Want to have some access to the pagers ya know? But an official facebook page is in the works

Q: Dating anyone?
A: there is someone I am into but where it goes is up to him but in technical terms not officially seeing anyone right now

Q: What do you want in a boyfriend?
A: funny, smart and nice eyes and smile but I look for inner beauty if his personality isn't there then no connection for me, and I cannot be bought it annoys me when guys think that. I have my own career etc if I want those things I can buy them myself I want someone who is actually going to respect me as a girlfriend

Q: Favorite sport?
A: I love to watch hockey and rugby. I used to play soccer but I always danced

Q: Rumor is you're changing your hair color again?
A: I have thought about going back to my natural hair colour aka dark auburn, so maybe no more jet black at least for awhile!

Q: Travel schedule?
A: Yes, coming soon! Yes, I will be back in LA soon though yes it's happening kiddies ;-)

Q:  What is the story behind the Mia Farrow haircut?
A: I saw the film Rosemary's Baby for the first time not too long ago. YES the first time! I was never allowed to watch horror films as a kid or R rated films for that matter, anyway I love pin up 1950s etc and literally fell in love with Mia Farrow's haircut in the film so about two weeks later went in and told the stylist...take it all. And now I made a bet with one of my friends to grow it out not too long ago so yea it's like shoulder length now uncertain if I will let get longer than that undecided! 

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Alice in Wonderland

"I mean all I ever did was follow a white rabbit down a hole...I didn't expect for anything to truly happen"- Dahlia, from the Awakening [describing her romantic relationship with Joseph and the reaction of others to it] I can relate to this quite a bit right now....and yea I've been seeing some weird shit lately......


Monday, April 15, 2013

balance and being grounded is key

What people don't realise is that not too long ago I had to make a choice which guess some would say is crucial. I was literally torn between performing full time or remain in nursing which is something I went to school for and is something my parents made me and my brother/sisters do if we ever chose to go that path. Both of my parents were exceedingly creative and talented so yea I grew up on the road a lot, been around performers and musicians. Actually, I feel more comfortable being around creatives and musicians it's all I've ever known but at the same time I am drawn to a "normal" life and for me that is nursing. I love helping people and taking care of me it gives me a life purpose not saying can't accomplish the same with performing because you can no doubt; I love having a "normal" job because it provides me with that balance as well keeps me grounded and humble about life. Unfortunately, I've seen so many people get sucked into the negative in performing [you know the Black Swan effect] and really do not want that to be me at some point. It is so easy to go down a negative path being a performer because everything gets thrown at you, women [or men], drugs, etc etc. and if you don't have people around you keeping it real can very easily get off track.  It is one reason I am very selective about the circle I keep around me and what I ultimately do as well trust issues because people will lead you down a wrong path just to see a person screw up.
  Guess it is because I had to grow up super fast because I grew up in the business. Ultimately, I don't want to chase "fame" to me there is no fame, just people like everyone else to where all the things get magnified in the media. As far modeling goes everything I do is for charity/humanitarian efforts, I am not seeking to make profits off of it of any kind except for what is donated.
  Does the lifestyle bother me? No because I am used to it it doesn't phase me. I can't be bought and material things aren't that important to me. If I like someone it's because of the kind of heart he has, if I am your friend it is because of how you are as a person.
 I do love having that creative outlet as I did study dance in school so why not do something I enjoy and love especially working in the kind of nursing I work in it is crucial to have a healthy outlet and for me I've always been comfortable expressing myself in a creative way...and there is nothing wrong with that.
  So yea that is who I am...maybe I am meant to be in between both "worlds" and that is okay too. If anything someday I hope to be a Mum and be with a guy I adore all the other things are just perks. I think I am so much like my big brother in so many ways...he had such an amazing music career yet he worked as a systems analyst, it's a balance thing....and it is okay to have balance.


Thursday, April 11, 2013

unthinkable

if there was a song to describe my life right now...it would be this:



Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Saturday benefit to end discrimination

This Saturday, April 13 some friends and I will be participating in a fundraising to help fight against discrimination. Recently, a same sex couple were refused the right to adopt their foster children and were blatantly discriminated against because of this fact; honestly, I feel if a couple is willing to provide a high risk child or children with a stable home, love and positive environment they should be allowed to do so. I am behind the couple 110% and the benefit will help them raise money to help with legal costs wishing them all the best and definitely showing support. So once again, several friends including myself will be doing special performances at BossyGrrls this weekend to help raise money any info please contact me via twitter, etc. 

thank you all for your continued love and support

much love,

Nat

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

new beginnings

I think I am definitely at a point in my life where there are new beginnings in almost every aspect of my life; if anything so thankful for the friends who I do still have and also care about as well are super amazing. I am so fortunate to have an amazing group of friends, I don't have many people whom I am close to so you girls rock [Bettie Noir, Dany, Sabrena] especially after everything that has happened these past few months sometimes we learn who our true friends are but that is all behind me now.
 In any event it is time to put the past behind me and look forward to the future and just accepting whatever changes and people who will come into my life as a performer and as well personally,  but not worried because know it will all be for the better; just living life learning and growing....

much love,

Nat


Monday, April 8, 2013

life of an insomniac

Okay so once again I am unable to sleep; maybe it is because I like to think too much late at night and worry about things that really shouldn't or just trying to figure things out in my life. My life is cool no complaints but in a few short months I've learned : who my real friends are...and sadly that meant ending a friendship with someone I thought was one of my best friends, finally coming to terms with the past and letting it go, and everything about what I originally had thought has been completely altered...but in a good way, and finally about trust...I really don't trust many people. Maybe this is just growing up or maybe this is just truly discovering the different facets of life, so going to try and get some sleep and know that whatever will be will be but whatever the outcome it will be amazing <3

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Friday, April 5, 2013

going from one extreme to the other....

someone said something to me not too long ago that hadn't really thought of until now; she asked me if I had realised like how much I have accomplished as far modeling and the photographers I've worked with, etc. she also mentions how for me it's almost like it's no "biggie" and in reality it kind of is. Not saying that to come across as arrogant or cocky because so not my intentions and really think it is beyond that; think it is because I was just raised to be "normal" and humble. Personally, I don't like to broadcast that I've done xyz for abc just not my style. People know I model, people know I do photoshoots, people know I perform and people know [most] about my parents and big brother and who my close friends are. It's just we were always raised to be down to Earth, humble and loyal to our friends and family...it's just how we all are/were. If people want my modeling resume sure no problem but I honestly don't like to walk around broadcasting it all over twitter or facebook just isn't my thing. It's also one of the things I hope to keep with me because I want to remain humble and down to Earth and never want to change from that. I'm always going to be that cutesy girl with the Mia Farrow haircut...just more grown up....

:-)

much love,
Nat

Thursday, April 4, 2013

relationships...going there....

Since a lot of people have been asking going to just knock it all out right here so to speak haha


What kind of guy am I looking for?

That would be someone with a huge and I mean HUGE sense of humour. I love laughing and it is almost a requirement to hang out with me; I love making people laugh and smile always have so definitely he would have to be someone can just have inside jokes with or just laugh at random stuff also take note my sense of humour is quite warped...I have my Dad's Eastern European sarcastic humour and my Mum's quirky and zany British humour.

I love guys who are intelligent and he doesn't have to be a rocket scientist but someone I can have a decent conversation with. Most guys I think are intimidated by me because I love learning and work in nursing field, my parents encouraged us to continue our schooling if we were to perform. My brother was a systems analyst, my other two sisters are accountants so my parents always encouraged education for us and glad that they did because I can't be a model/performer forever, you know?

Humanitarian work. I am big on humanitarian work myself and hope to be with someone who is into the same. I love guys who have big hearts and are compassionate. The world is so cruel these days and think it is so amazing to see another person think of others it's hardly seen anymore these days. I think it also shows that he isn't selfish honestly, think it would be cool to be with someone travel the world and make people laugh and smile.

Also be my best friend. Really, I don't open up to a lot of people mainly because I have trust issues and people always mistake me as being shy when I'm not it's just that depends on how comfortable I am with people and if can trust them then I will open up and won't be so guarded. I also don't have tons of friends either I do but my best mates are the ones I spend the most time with and they are friends I've had since we were all children basically.  So yea, friendship is definitely a good foundation for a relationship for me at least.

I am slightly old fashioned. I'm not shy to ask a guy out but I prefer that the guy asks me out. I feel like if a guy is truly interested he will make the effort to ask out a girl sure if I like someone I will flirt, etc. and let him know I am into him but he has to take the initial steps though or prefer it if he does.

Nice eyes and smile...two things I definitely look for, can't help it :-)



Wednesday, April 3, 2013

for the owner of my heart....

I will be the answer
At the end of the line
I will be there for you
While you take the time
In the burning of uncertainty
I will be your solid ground
I will hold the balance
If you can't look down

If it takes my whole life
I won't break, I won't bend
It will all be worth it
Worth it in the end
Cause I can only tell you what I know
That I need you in my life
When the stars have all gone out
You'll still be burning so bright

Cast me gently
Into morning
For the night has been unkind
Take me to a
Place so holy
That I can wash this from my mind
The memory of choosing not to fight

If it takes my whole life
I won't break, I won't bend
It will all be worth it
Worth it in the end
'Cause I can only tell you what I know
That I need you in my life
When the stars have all burned out
You'll still be burning so bright

Cast me gently
Into morning
For the night has been unkind


-answer, by sarah mclachlan

would you believe me if i told you i was in love and would you believe me if i told you i was waiting for a thieving moment?


Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Q & A session from late night entertainment

the other night had a Q & A session with pagers and answered some questions and even took some requests for future routines!! Yes, definitely in the works guys!!!

Q: How did you end up being a burlesque performer?
A: A long story!! I began dancing at the age of six but I have a few friends who are burlesque performers and would always go watch them perform and they had been trying to convince me to get into it...and finally told myself "let's just go for it" only live once. Plus, I've always been fascinated with anything related to pin up and 1950/1960s fashion so it helps me with my passion for it.

Q:  Why are you anti nude?

A: It isn't I'm anti nude it just isn't something that me personally would want to do. I just made that decision beforehand that being nude was something I wanted to do; it isn't because think I am being snobby by any means don't want anyone to think that think it is more so if I am with a guy he can say, " I get to see her, you all can't" type of thing. Besides burlesque dancing isn't always about hey...look at my boobs you know? If watch older performances it is truly an art form sometimes people miss that and just think oh when is everyone going to get naked? I want people to see the art, the beauty the concepts behind routines. I'm very comfortable with my body and being naked but it is the idea of teasing which is what burlesque is.

Q: Will you ever do a nurse routine?
A: Since pagers have been requesting this a lot....probably eventually!

Q: Do you really know that many foreign languages?
A: Yes, I do. I grew up speaking French and knowing Russian. I learned Spanish and German in school Serbian I am able to read because my Godfather is from Serbia but he also speaks French so many times I communicate with him in French.

Q: Is it true the song you wrote romeo + juliet is about Justin Bieber?
A: it is.

Q: Would you go out with me? [someone asked this]
A:  never know!

Q: Are you single? [get asked this one a lot too]
A: it's complicated


Q: Do you have a boyfriend?
A: There is someone I have feelings for boyfriend potential definitely if he wants it.

Q: When is your next show?
A: This upcoming Saturday [ April 6]

Q:  How do you pick music for routines?
A: Normally I pick songs which are personal to me or it is a song I can relate to.

Q: Do you really skateboard?
A: Yes, I do :]

Q: How does it feel to be considered a "sex object" or a person who is desirable?
A: Whenever I set goals for myself never once looked at myself that way. People mostly have known me first as a pin up model and even then that thought never really crossed my mind. Do I think I am a sex object or sexy? I think sexy yes, but that is because we have our own concept of what being sexy is. I think any person is sexy who is comfortable being him or herself society tries to dictate too much what we or how we should view what is beautiful or what is being sexy. For me being sexy is jeans, heels and some lipstick for another person it could be something totally different. It's about perspective.