I just want to post an update from my two previous blogs which were posted today. I want to clarify some things: I did not hack anyone's account these were sent to me by someone who felt not only is this sort of behaviour is wrong and uncalled for. I actually thought long and hard about posting this as for one it is discussing an issue which is extremely private.
This is something I have experienced since being in the troupe and I by no means wanted to write an "exposed" blog however that is crossing the line. I never posted anything about them online in a negative way as they have done nor have I messaged any of their friends with threats etc.
People should also take into account that what we post on social media sites can be made public and does have a way of getting out eventually. This is why being adults we need to be more responsible about what we post and write on Facebook, twitter etc. It never is as "private" as we think it is. Own up to your actions .
Furthermore when a grown woman text messages someone my age calling me fat and that I need a boob job really should not be on social media sites it is tragic when a grown woman that age behaves in that manner.
I've moved on from this experience and speaking of why are they still to this day taking screen shots of my facebook to begin with?
So for the record no I did not nor anyone else I know hack anyone's account and "slander" would be if I made false statements in which case I haven't.
People focus on something positive instead of negatives.
I know I am and never allow anyone to make you feel bad about yourself there is more to a person than looks and material possessions. Self worth is beyond that.
Monday, June 30, 2014
An Update
You've Kept Your Hands Cleans Cont'd
I am sharing this because despite what people say I have not spoken to these individuals in 4 months or more yet still continue to receive these sorts of messages and even worse one performer I haven't even met and doubt she has even seen me perform and I have no idea who she is. Either way never allow hate, jealousy or pettiness take you away from your dreams regardless how big or small. Stay positive always
You've Kept Your Hands Clean
First, I would like to say that no one should feel bullied or endure verbal or mental abuse by anyone. What we also need to realise as a society relational aggression still exists and is very real. Oftentimes we ignore relational aggression because it is more emotional and verbal abuse as oppose to physical bullying.
I find it more disturbing when this behaviour comes from individuals my age and older because at that age I feel one is more aware of their actions and the repercussions of what words etc can do to another individual.
Being a performer receiving hate is something to expect anymore these days because not everyone is going to like what you do as a performer. I never allowed what others say affect me too much someone will always find something to criticise about.
For the longest I wasn't certain if I wanted to make these messages and posts public more out of ignoring it maybe it will stop yet it continues. I also decided to come out about this to let others know a) this behaviour is not okay and will not be accepted and b) maybe it will emcourage others to speak up about bullying. No matter how we look at the situation it is bullying. It can be embarrassing, yes but if we don't start making changes it will continue.
Burlesque can be a beautiful art form and it should experienced by all cultures and gender. I got into burlesque because was inspired by my experience in dance and wanting to show girls and women it is okay to be different and still be beautiful.
I know that won't always happen but at least if you are in a position of leadership be professional and don't have to like me not everyone will but can at least respect one another as performers and individuals.
Speaking of being performers and "public figures" we should take into account that people will follow whomever they like and that is fine. But I have had this done to me and seen other performers insult each other or will purposely send their "fans" to send hate towards others.
Social media has fuel relational aggression more than any other outlet. Sure we can't control what people say about others but when you purposely go out of your way to make horrible and disrespectful remarks or when it resorts to threats etc then it is a problem.
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Q&A Longtime!
Q: Would you rather give bad advice or receive bad advice?
A: That is a tough one! Honestly, I have been on both sides and we're all human so we make mistakes one way or the other. I just try to look at life as a learning experience and just pray that whatever isn't too bad, really all we can do.
Q: Favorite city?
A: I absolutely love NYC and Toronto possibly my two most favourite cities in the world. Toronto has become like a second home to me, so yes I consider myself Canadian!!
Q: Favorite Michael Jackson song?
A: Human Nature and Off the Wall. I think the lyrics to Human Nature are so profound in their own way.
Q: Do you like Paramore?
A: YES!!!! Hayley Williams is stunning and love them completely.
Q: Will you attend any Dita von Teese shows this September?
Q: New burlesque troupe and numbers?
A: Yes to both! Although I am not in a troupe per say. I am now an independent performer but I am in a group which allows independent performers to come together and spread positivity which is what burlesque is all about.
Q: What was it like returning to the stage?
A: I was nervous given it had been a couple months since I had performed. I am thankful for the warm reception and of course the support has been incredible.
Q: What about fake Facebook profiles?
A: To clear up the confusion: there is one profile that my cousin runs and she uses that to promote events when I am performing and the causes I am involved with. Secondly, I mainly use my twitter, FB page or tumblr to update any information mainly twitter. But for the record: www.facebook.com/nataliapage13 is me on Facebook I do have an account I use on FB but prefer twitter or tumblr.
Q: Do you have a boyfriend?
A: Yes, I do.
Q: Is dating hard being a burlesque performer?
A: In the past it has been yes. It was difficult dating and modeling in the past, but the idea is to find someone who is completely supportive and maintaining that balance between the two hence why I am scaling back performing/traveling. I have no regrets at all but something has to give you know? It's just finding compromises all relationships take work regardless performing or not.
Q: Favorite restaurant?
A: Depends on my mood!! I love to travel and that means exploring different foods, but I love Tex Mex mean being raised in Texas love Mexican food! Since being in Ohio I am developing a liking for German food!
Friday, June 6, 2014
Performance and Appearance Schedule for June
June 11 The Patio [at the Continent]
June 27 Comfest
June 29 Circus Legs & Eggs Brunch
Performances
June 20 Ace of Cups
see you all soon
xoxo
Natalia
How Do I Even Get Started A Pin Up Girl's Guide
Here are some ideas that helped me get started:
1. Group Shoots
I liked these ideas especially if new to modeling because it does give a model a chance to network and shoot with an array of photographers. Each geographic area has different ideas about group shoots ; even if you don't get booked with photographers at that particular event it is a good idea to go network [have business cards handy] and if a photographer has a cancellation you can very easily talk with photographers about being a last minute fill in. This will get your feet in the water as well investigate what genre of modeling works for you and what you wish to pursue.
2. Networking
Do not be afraid to use Facebook, Model Mayhem, etc to network for photoshoots. However, use extreme caution and common sense when networking [as well any photoshoot]. I would suggest to always bring a chaperone and it is just a matter of safety for the model and the photographer. Screen potential photographers, research if looking through a portfolio and it is mostly nudes more than likely this is what the photographer shoots. If a photographer still wishes to work with me [and he or she primarily does nudes] I disclose the information that absolutely no nudes. Photographers need to respect wishes as well. If a model expresses no nudes, etc do not press the issue. Some models wish to pose nude while others do not it is a personal preference do not force it.
3. Trial and Error
It is okay to experiment with different looks to further grasp what area you want to go into as a model. Some ladies experiment with alternative modeling and love it, while others wish to go the route of editorial or high fashion. Find what you are comfortable with and pursue that. Everyone has their approach to modeling and fashion there truly is something for everyone.
4. Support System
It is nice to have a support system of any kind because it can be stressful and time consuming. Knowing that there are people who will back you is great and also can help with promoting and networking. Keeping that balance is also important because this industry can be a handful to deal with.
5. Rejection
Don't be afraid of it. Rejection is something that happens regularly in the entertainment industry be it dancer, model, actor, artist...it just happens. Think of yourself as anchovies some people will love it others may not. There will also be people who may think your art form is the absolute worst, but I say if you reach at least one person that is enough at least for me anyway. Even if you have 10 people who follow your career be proud of that and own it.
6. Fandoms
Yes, even if you build yourself up locally you can have your own and nothing to be ashamed of. Just as we have people who support various local bands etc, the same applies to modeling. Just know that you may people who will think you're great, stalk you or absolutely detest you. It is all part of how the industry works. Learn to not allow what others think affect you a great deal [why a support system is handy]
7. Management, etc
If you feel you are to that point in your career choose a manager whom you trust and will have your best interest and knows your wishes and respects them. Also know that this is a business so do not take anything personally on most days [sad but true]
8. Overexposure
With Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Instagram etc I see a great deal of models going for the overkill. Meaning every 5 seconds they are posting "selfies" etc in an attempt to gain exposure. People do it so much so that it not going to lie becomes annoying. You want people to listen and capture an audience not annoy them every 10 seconds with flyers, yes it is important but don't overkill with it.
9. Believe
Have confidence in yourself and your talent but also be humble about it. Arrogance will not win people over but never forget those who helped in the long run. Know that the road is long and hard and doesn't get easier.
10. Join Groups
One way to get started is to join local modeling groups which do charity/humanitarian work. It also puts your name out in a professional manner, but doing good for others in the process; I feel it is a rewarding experience and it helps teach others what it should be about...helping others feel great about themselves and helping yourself grow in the process.